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When Your Child is Bored
I have often pointed out that boredom is good for your child; a great learning tool. It forces the child (and adult) to be in the now and generate presence which is always exciting and expanding. It is what propels true learning, self-awareness and inner connection. What I have not focussed on is the reason…
Your baby and child don’t need toys
Our babies are best off with human connection and with nature and the arts. Everything else seems to me like a substitute and less than the best, so I examine it carefully. Is this toy developing the baby’s intelligence? How can you know? You don’t. You know they want to sell it to you and…
Dancing in the Rain
by Naomi Aldort, Author of Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves Instead of teaching children to fight the storm, let them learn to dance in the rain. Do you tell your parents things they are bewildered by and have no idea what you are talking about? It is very sobering to come out of many years…
Holidays’ Joy Without Shopping
by Naomi Aldort I do not remember shopping for holidays as a child. I do recall giving and generosity and I recall all that I created with my own hands to give to family members. I made a weaved gorgeous scarf for my mother, for example, an embroidered pillow cover for the house/everyone, I sang…
Parenting guidance
“It ain’t what you don’t know that gets you into trouble. It’s what you know for sure that just ain’t so.” – Mark Twain. Most difficulties we encounter in parenting end up with the sad, “I wish I knew then, so this could have been prevented.” In my daily Skype sessions with parents, I so…
Valuing human life over material goods
“What kind of society puts material idols ahead of its children?” – Naomi Aldort . I invite you not to blame the politicians and the NRA. (I am not saying they are not responsible, they clearly are.) Look inside and starts with you. Make your home one where humans come first. This trend of…
The illusion of division and the power of unity in parenting
“A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. She experiences herself, her thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of her consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal…
Paid parents, not substitutes
If men stayed at home to be parents (regularly, not as individual exceptions) they would be paid well. We don’t need free daycare, but highly paid parents; paid for doing the most important job on earth. Creating an economy in which one job is sufficient to support a family is a better direction than finding…
Breastfeeding and Weaning a Young Child or a Toddler
After a session in which Marina was wondering how to deal with her child’s clinginess and how to wean her, we discussed giving the child the affection and connection she needs with or without the breast. I also shared with Marine a few ways to gently move on. I think Marina’s response in the following email can be…
From Toddlers to Teenagers
by Naomi Aldort An interview about teenagers by a teenager (18) interviewer: How to prevent issues from arising starting when they are babies, and how respond to difficulties when they are teens. How would you be with your baby, toddler or child, if you had a clue how she will be as a teen and…
Turning Halloween Green
Transforming Halloween from Getting to Giving and from Toxic to GreenBy Naomi Aldort “How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” – Anne Frank When I first heard of the “trick or treat” phenomenon as an young adult newcomer to the USA, I was feeling uncomfortable to…
Raising Resilient Children
By Naomi Aldort A friend on our island put this paragraph on his Facebook page on his 83rd’s birthday.“Well here it is again. as I start my 83rd trip around the sun,I am so lucky to be here. From a bad orphanage to a worse foster home to all the things it took to get here. I…