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If men stayed at home to be parents (regularly, not as individual exceptions) they would be paid well. We don't need free daycare, but highly paid parents; paid for doing the most important job on earth. Creating an economy in which one job is sufficient to support a family is a better direction than finding ways to get more people to work and harming the children.       

         What is needed and best for the young child is to be with their parents in the early years. And, for or the mother, to get to be a mother and meet her child’s primal needs optimally, including breastfeeding, holding and bonding. Talking about the price of substitute to parents is supporting the inequality of women as women and the atrocity of day time orphanages that harms the development of human beings.                                                                                      

        This is about gender and age inequalities; a discriminating against the child in the name of profit; generating more working people for the industry and depriving babies and young children of their parents. Women and men must unite on this issue and eradicate substitutes to what babies and young children’s real needs.

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“A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. She experiences herself, her thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of her consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.” - Albert Einstein

 

   The illusion that Einstein talks about is relevant to our whole existence and every detail of our lives, including our relationships with children. The idea that we throw away our garbage or flush medications, junk food, or detergent away... is the way we are destroying our home planet. In reality it goes nowhere. It is here with us in our beautiful home. The illusion of separation, in the big picture, causes us to see "others" as not part of us; leading to agism (discrimination by age), racism and bigotry, sexism, nationalism and other separating views of humans. 

 

When your child does something that goes against your wishes, in your best moments you join the child as one, see her real valid point of view and align with it to find the flow that works for everyone. That is unity. That is like seeing that the fingers on your hand are part of you and not an opposition. When you struggle with a child or a spouse, you can be sure you have lost the unity and are perceiving an illusory division. The child may say, "I hate you daddy/mommy", and if you see you as divided, you feel threatened and go to war to stop the hate and "correct" it. When you feel the true unity; you see the child as part of you, a reflection of your inner being. What part of you hate yourself? What part of your child do you dislike at times? Can you notice how going against the "stream" of your child's emotion is the cause of struggle and makes things worse? Can you see that this division is the reason the child feels this temporary hate?

 

Only human mind divides. The child is like your arm or leg; a symptom of the whole. And so is the neighbor, or the country or religion and groups of people. Bring peace to our tired and ill planet and start with you being in unity. Join your child rather than oppose her. If she hates, its the perfect time to dive into this with her by asking her to tell you more and then listen as one. Both of you are listening together to what is going on right now. This is love.The illusion that Einstein talks about is relevant to our whole existence and every detail of our lives, including our relationships with children. The idea that we throw away our garbage or flush medications, junk food, or detergent away... is the way we are destroying our home planet. In reality it goes nowhere. It is here with us in our beautiful home.

 

The illusion of separation, in the big picture, causes us to see "others" as not part of us; leading to agism (discrimination by age), racism and bigotry, sexism, nationalism and other separating views of humans. 

 

When your child does something that goes against your wishes, in your best moments you join the child as one, see her real valid point of view and align with it to find the flow that works for everyone. That is unity. That is like seeing that the fingers on your hand are part of you and not an opposition. 

 

When you struggle with a child or a spouse, you can be sure you have lost the unity and are perceiving an illusory division. The child may say, "I hate you daddy/mommy", and if you see you as divided, you feel threatened and go to war to stop the hate and "correct" it. When you feel the true unity; you see the child as part of you, a reflection of your inner being. What part of you hate yourself? What part of your child do you dislike at times? Can you notice how going against the "stream" of your child's emotion is the cause of struggle and makes things worse? Can you see that this division is the reason the child feels this temporary hate?

 

Only human mind divides. The child is like your arm or leg; a symptom of the whole. And so is the neighbor, or the country or religion and groups of people. Bring peace to our tired and ill planet and start with you being in unity. Join your child rather than oppose her. If she hates, its the perfect time to dive into this with her by asking her to tell you more and then listen as one. Both of you are listening together to what is going on right now. This is love.

©Copyright Naomi Aldort 2018

 

 

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“What kind of society puts material idols ahead of its children?”  - Naomi Aldort .   

I invite you not to blame the politicians and the NRA. (I am not saying they are not responsible, they clearly are.) Look inside and starts with you. Make your home one where humans come first. This trend of commitment to money and material goods starts at home: Do your children have more toys than time with you? Do both parents work to maintain a lifestyle that is not a real need at the cost of time together? Do you reward your children with material goods? Do you make the mark of a celebrating, getting things? Is shopping the preparation for going on a trip, creating a gathering etc.? Do your children see love as giving goods? Do your children see you getting upset over lost money or a broken vas, talking about the value of things? Or do you find yourself behaving frantically to save money even at the cost of quality of human connection? The list is long and you can find what is true for you.

In my book, Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves, there is a beautiful poem by Bruce Linton, “The Window,” demonstrating the shift from valuing things and what we want as adults, to what is truly of value: loving the child.

Blaming the forces that be is emotionally understandable, yet, it makes us powerless victims. “They don’t act.” “We don’t act.” We keep shopping and valuing material goods beyond its worth and at the cost of love.

As a parent, you are the leader of the small unit that joins eventually the big unit of the community and society. Home is a micro country. We create the state of mind, priorities and spirit of the next generation. We are enabling corporations’ greed by buying their products, and by buying their brainwash that to love is to give material goods, drive better cars, have more rooms, more gadgets and man made foods. And, we teach this rush for “things” to the children every day. The corporations will lose their power when we stop enabling them by playing into their plan. And our children will be as caring of life as they see us be.

Thinking is communal, even though we are mostly not conscious of this fact. We have the power to raise children who put life, love, connection and humanity way way before material idols. I invite you to start now.

Naomi Aldort

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Holidays’ Joy without shopping

by Naomi Aldort

I do not remember shopping for holidays as a child. I do recall giving and generosity and I recall all that I created with my own hands to give to family members. I made a weaved gorgeous scarf for my mother, for example, an embroidered pillow cover for the house/everyone, I sang for my friends, and generally crafted the gifts I gave. 

 

My parents gave me what I needed (clothing) as gifts, one gift per holiday. And, they gave me generously as needed with no dates or special reason. What I valued most was not material gifts, but time with loved ones and experiences. Experiences were either together or by myself. For example, one of the best gifts I recall is a subscription to the Symphony’s children program which was monthly. These were heavenly.

 

For most of us, our children hardly need anything. Gifts are therefore generally superfluous. Perhaps we can engage children in giving to those who actually need it. To children who don’t have enough food, clothes, educational needs, housing, and care. There are many ways to do that, year around, and not only with money, but with acts of service and kindness.

Giving and holidays were not always about shopping and are not inherently so. In fact, in most of history they were not about consumerism at all.

The transformation of celebration days into a shopping project is new. Material goods are far from the only way to give. In a way it is the least effort, as paying for something is less involved than making the gift yourself, or giving an experience rather than material goods.

In a world which is saturated with material goods and one that is getting destroyed by this surplus, I have been thinking about how to enjoy giving, peace and family connection, without the shopping; without doing harm to the planet with more driving and goods and packing and cards... or at least much less of it.

The industry propels this idea that giving is about shopping - for profit. I don’t buy that (pan intended.)

If you have similar aspirations and would like to share your ideas of joy, of giving, of sharing and experiencing without leaving footprints on our overwhelmed planet, please share in the comments. Also share any ideas for keeping the holidays peaceful, harmonious and nurturing for you and for your children and families that are not about material goods. Lets learn from each other and start a movement of “joy without shopping”. 

I am looking forward to your contributions in the comments bellow the video.

Naomi Aldort

©Copyright Naomi Aldort, 2017

A gift of a song for you:     Carol of the Bells - Pentatonix 

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