“It ain’t what you don’t know that gets you into trouble. It’s what you know for sure that just ain’t so.” – Mark Twain.
Most difficulties we encounter in parenting end up with the sad, “I wish I knew then, so this could have been prevented.”
In my daily Skype sessions with parents, I so often hear parents say, “I wish I called you long ago.” And yet, at the time parents had no reason to believe that they are causing an issue. I have made taken such turns myself. Yes, we must love what is and forgive.
And we strive to do our best and not let “knowing” block possibilities. We often miss opportunities by being sure that we got it right and that we know. In a way, like Mark Twain said, the illusion of knowing thwarts our ability to question and therefore discover what is outside our limited knowing. It is what we don’t know that we don’t know that is often the source of struggles and therefore benefits the most from seeking feedback and road map from outside our own mind.